The Christian counselor's manual Jay Edward Adams

Part One: The Persons
I. The Persons Involved in Counseling Always More than Two
At Least Three
II. The Holy Spirit Is the Principal Person
His Work Is Holiness
All Christians Benefit from His Counsel
III. The Human Counselor
Who Should Counsel?
Counseling Is Ministerial
Qualifications for Counseling
Authority in Counseling
Counselors Must Be Directive
The Personality of the Counselor
IV. The Counselee
You Already Know a Lot
Sources of Knowledge
No Surprises Necessary
Solutions for Every Problem
What the Counselor Needs to Know
How to Prior Knowledge Helps
Counselees Can Change
Part Two: The Presuppositions and Principles
V. Presuppositions and Principles Basic to Counseling
A Limited Number of Presuppositions and Principles
VI. Hope
Hope of Change
Everyone Needs Hope
Specific Problems Requiring Hope
How to Give Hope
VII. Prayer: The Base for Christian Counseling
VIII. The Reconciliation/Discipline Dynamic
The Three Steps
The Purpose and Benefits of Discipline
Where to Begin?
Marriage, Divorce, and the Reconciliation/Discipline Dynamic
IX. Reconciliation
A New Relationship
Forgive and Forget?
Forgiveness First Is Granted, Not Felt
X. Presuppositions and Methodology
Expert Knowledge
Freudianism
Behaviorism
Common Knowledge
Rogerianism
O. Hobart Mowrer
Divine Knowledge
A Judging Activity
A Convicting Activity
A Changing Activity
A Structuring Activity
XI. Technique
Part Three: The Practice and Process.
XII. The Language of Counseling
Language Is Important
Confronting Counselees About Their Language
Deadly Euphemisms
XIII. The Language of Emotion and Action
Feeling
Attitude
Behavior
XIV. Sin Is the Problem
Counseling Is Warfare
Opting for the Desire-Oriented and Motivated Life
Feeling-Oriented Counseling
Decision Making
Common Themes Sin
Themes Expressed in Individual Styles
Satan and His Associates
Feeling and Doing
Case by Spencer
Are Feelings Important?
Responsibility and Sin
Temporal Insanity
The Influence of Childhood Training
XV. Love in Counseling
Love Is the Goal
Must One First Love Himself?
What of One's Self-Concept?
The Counselor's Approach
What Is Love, After All?
XVI. Support, Sympathy, and Empathy
Modern Ideas
Not a Biblical Concept
Support Is Harmful
What of Sympathy and Empathy?
XVII. The Motivation for Change
Be What You Are
Implications for Counseling
Reward/Punishment
Other Means of Motivation
Choosing the Motivational Method
XVIII. Effecting Biblical Change
Change: The Goal
Change Is Hard
Changing the Past
Changing Present Patterns form the Past
Changing Life Patterns
Failure to Effect Changes
That Stick
Dehabituation
and Rehabituation
Breaking and Establishing Habits
XIX. Elements of Dehabituation
Becoming Aware of Patterns
Discovering the Biblical Alternative
Structuring for Change
Breaking Links in the Chain of Sin
Resistance
Restraint
Getting Help from Another
Stressing the Whole Relationship to Christ
To Avoid Gimmicks
To Handle Life-Dominating Problems
Practicing the New Pattern
Cases of Change
The Case of Bill and the Traffic Light
The Case of Benjamin and the Toll Booth
Summary
XX. Getting Started
Advertise
How to Stimulate Counseling
Counseling Center or Study?
What About Counseling Intimate Friends?
The First Session
XXI. Goals and Terminal Dates
Early Morning Fog
Setting Goals and Objectives
Checking Up on Failure
General Goals and Procedures for the Weekly Counseling Session
Transitional Matters
The Discovery and Discussion of New Data
Flexibility
Adaptation to Counselees
XXII. The Commitment of the Counselee
Is Talk Therapeutic?
XXIII. Is There a Problem?
Counsel or Counseling?
XXIV. Two Basic Approaches
The Intensive Approach
The Extensive Approach
XXV. Ways of Gathering Data
A Vital Activity
Halo Data
Core Data
Get the Facts
Note Taking
Use of Notes
Responsibility and Data Gathering
Gathering Legitimate Data
XXVI. Asking Questions
What to Do About Agenda Problems
Why People Come
Discovering Problem Patterns
Scheduling
Probing
The Kinds of Questions to Ask
Let Questions Grow Out of the Data Received
Ask Questions of Yourself
How to Handle Rambling Replies
How to Handle False Data
XXVII. Helping Through Homework
Offering Initial Help Through Homework
The Professional Counselee
XXVIII. An Analysis of Homework
Small Assignments/Large Changes
Multiple vs. Single-Stranded Problems
Homework: Sets a Pattern for Expectation of Change
Clarifies Expectations
Enables Counselors to Do More Counseling More Rapidly
Keeps Counselees from Becoming Dependent Upon the Counselor
Enables One to Gauge Progress or Lack of It
Allows Counselors to Deal with Problems Under Controlled Current Conditions
Homework Helps the Counselor
Failure to Do Assignments
Recouping
Samples of Actual Homework Assignments
XXIX. Ways of Using Homework
Using the Conference Table
A Sample List
Variations on the Theme
Problem Solving Through Modeling
Modeling as Homework
Rebuilding Trust
A Fresh Start
XXX. Gifts that Differ
Gifts and Fruit of the Spirit
Biblical Principles
Counseling Implications
XXXI. How to Handle Anger
Anger Not Necessarily Sinful
Anger May Become Sinful
Ventilation
Internalization
How to Handle Anger Righteously
Help Counselees to Redirect Anger.
XXXII. Dealing with Envy, Brooding, Fretting, and Self-Pity
Envy
Brooding and Self-Pity
How to Change the Situation
Discovering the Presence of the Problem
XXXIII. Helping Depressed Persons
What Is Behind Depression?
Avoiding Depression
How the Counselor May Help
What About the So-Called Manic-Depressive
Offering Help
How Not to Handle Depressed Persons
XXXIV. Helping the Schizophrenic
What Is Schizophrenia?
Mystics: Visionaries or Sinners?
Sleep Loss
Catatonic Schizophrenia
XXXV. Resolving Sexual Difficulties
In Marriage
Biblical Principles of Sex
General Counseling Procedures
Guilt Over Sins
Sexual Ignorance
Helping Young People to Handle Masturbation
Masturbation Is Sin
Masturbation Can Be Overcome
How to Counsel Persons Involved in the Sin of Homosexuality
Treat It As Sin
What to Do to Help
Total Structuring
XXXVI. Helping Those Who Fear
Love and Fear
Fear and Punishment
Eliminating Fear by Love
Fear of Consequences
Phobias
Tension and Fear (Stage Fright)
Tension: A Matter of Degree
Distinguishing Objects of Fear
XXXVII. Counseling Those Who Fear That They Have Committed the Unpardonable Sin
What Is This Sin?
What Can Be Done
XXXVIII. Conclusion.